Reading this makes me think back and probably (definitely) with rose colored glasses long for the Covid lockdowns. We kept our kids home and worked from home for 10 weeks at the start of everything, and while it was so hard, my memory is also very sweet--we ate every meal together and my husband and I truly partnered to help each other be successful at our jobs while also taking care of our 2 and 4 year olds at the time. It wasn’t sustainable, but there were fruits of that experience that we held on to. Family dinner time is sacred and prioritized. We always sit at the table and use real dishes. We sing our hymns (better participation than saying the prayers). Our family culture was really cemented during that intense time at home. The only time we had home like that was a maternity leave, and even during those, my husband was at work most of the time. These are initial thoughts--you game me so much more to think about!
Good stuff. Looking forward to part 2. Question. I have been reading into Catholic feminism (as opposed to secular feminism) as a way to work on rewiring my brain. I also am a type A choleric and my tendency is to snap at my husband in frustration when I have to step up and “serve” him. I recently found the work of Abigail Favale. What else should be on my reading list? Have you tackled this in your writing? It seems like it would be right up your alley....
This is especially poignant as I prepare for my wedding in a couple weeks! I’ve never really thought about how separate spouses lives can be, and how that’s so radically different from most of history. So much food for thought. And I really look forward to part two!
Reading this makes me think back and probably (definitely) with rose colored glasses long for the Covid lockdowns. We kept our kids home and worked from home for 10 weeks at the start of everything, and while it was so hard, my memory is also very sweet--we ate every meal together and my husband and I truly partnered to help each other be successful at our jobs while also taking care of our 2 and 4 year olds at the time. It wasn’t sustainable, but there were fruits of that experience that we held on to. Family dinner time is sacred and prioritized. We always sit at the table and use real dishes. We sing our hymns (better participation than saying the prayers). Our family culture was really cemented during that intense time at home. The only time we had home like that was a maternity leave, and even during those, my husband was at work most of the time. These are initial thoughts--you game me so much more to think about!
Good stuff. Looking forward to part 2. Question. I have been reading into Catholic feminism (as opposed to secular feminism) as a way to work on rewiring my brain. I also am a type A choleric and my tendency is to snap at my husband in frustration when I have to step up and “serve” him. I recently found the work of Abigail Favale. What else should be on my reading list? Have you tackled this in your writing? It seems like it would be right up your alley....
This is especially poignant as I prepare for my wedding in a couple weeks! I’ve never really thought about how separate spouses lives can be, and how that’s so radically different from most of history. So much food for thought. And I really look forward to part two!
Gosh what food for thought! Can’t wait for part2! Thanks Emily!
Bravo again, Emily. Can't wait for part 2.
Thank you for this. Your writing is so clear and thoughtful.