I second your comments, Emily, on the Marquette method as a whole and Whole Mission in particular for help learning it! I worked with one of their instructors for a year after the birth of our fifth baby, and she was incredibly helpful! She reviewed my charts with me several times, was very responsive via email, and helped me have so much peace of mind in a difficult time.
Emily, I loved the section of your Substack on keeping faith in Christ even if disappointed in clergy. So beautiful nuanced and captures my own feelings so well in same.
I was disturbed though Emily with the earlier section of the piece on adoption and surragacy. I know the birth mum of my 2 adopted children did not ‘ make a plan for adoption or lovingly choose the family for their child’. Both children were removed from their 17 year old Mam by social workers, put into foster care for 2 years while we were chosen as the adoptive parents by the social workers . It was ethical but birth Mam had very little choice in any of it.
As for Surragacy… your words would deeply hurt three families I know who engaged in surragacy. One family’s surrogate was the Dad’s sister. She is far from discarded Emily and lives next door to her brother!
In the other two cases, the surragates were Ukrainian and the Irish families rescued them and some of their their extended family from the war and secured housing for them here in Ireland. Again not discarded in any way…
I agree with every other point you make about surrogacy but I think the ongoing dynamics between birth parents, adoptive parents and surrogates are a lot more complex and nuanced than your piece suggests.
Just my thoughts Emily abd wanted to share my thoughts with you.
Thanks for sharing the article on Jolene! I absolutely loathe the re-write… this article captures all of the “why’s”.
I second your comments, Emily, on the Marquette method as a whole and Whole Mission in particular for help learning it! I worked with one of their instructors for a year after the birth of our fifth baby, and she was incredibly helpful! She reviewed my charts with me several times, was very responsive via email, and helped me have so much peace of mind in a difficult time.
Emily, I loved the section of your Substack on keeping faith in Christ even if disappointed in clergy. So beautiful nuanced and captures my own feelings so well in same.
I was disturbed though Emily with the earlier section of the piece on adoption and surragacy. I know the birth mum of my 2 adopted children did not ‘ make a plan for adoption or lovingly choose the family for their child’. Both children were removed from their 17 year old Mam by social workers, put into foster care for 2 years while we were chosen as the adoptive parents by the social workers . It was ethical but birth Mam had very little choice in any of it.
As for Surragacy… your words would deeply hurt three families I know who engaged in surragacy. One family’s surrogate was the Dad’s sister. She is far from discarded Emily and lives next door to her brother!
In the other two cases, the surragates were Ukrainian and the Irish families rescued them and some of their their extended family from the war and secured housing for them here in Ireland. Again not discarded in any way…
I agree with every other point you make about surrogacy but I think the ongoing dynamics between birth parents, adoptive parents and surrogates are a lot more complex and nuanced than your piece suggests.
Just my thoughts Emily abd wanted to share my thoughts with you.
Bríd